What Do You See In Them?

This is a question which I'm sure has crossed your ears on occasion at least once in your life. Imagine sitting together with a friend and you're discussing the love of your life, your friend is listening contently, and out pops the question, "Okay, so what do you see in them? They don't seem to be your type!" Or maybe they inadvertently ask the question while you're amongst a group of peers.

Is there some sort of drawn out criteria in which we must follow a path to the perfect person in our lives? It's not always possible for our friends to accept the person in our lives or understand what it is that we do see in them, however basing our judgment on outer appearance, lifestyles, or other elements in a person's lives isn't always the most intelligent thing to bring to a friendship. There's no rule book which says we have to accept the people our friends choose to fall in love with, however common standard would give us the acknowledgement of the person and respect them because that's who our friend just happens to be head over heels in love with at the moment.

Has anyone ever asked you that question and followed it up with, "But they don't...." Perhaps this is true, perhaps they don't fit the standards of previous people in our lives but realize this, those previous standards did what to us? They left us unhappy or otherwise we'd still be in that situation with those people whom fit our previous criteria.

The beauty of life is we don't always choose who we fall in love with nor do we choose why we fall in love with them. There's something about the person we are with which charms us and allows us to feel free with them. Life gives us the opportunity to be happy, but if we continue to live as we did, we will continue to live in our miseries. Change is a good thing and if our previous standards weren't making us happy, it's time to make those changes.

All of that said, this doesn't mean to start looking at the homeless man and smacking your lips in a manner of lust! We do have to set forth some standard in order to protect ourselves and our future. If your potential mate doesn't have ambition in their life or they're lazy in their standards themselves, it isn't said that you have to adjust to their lifestyles.

We seem to dissect people, pick them apart, and put their bad habits in a pile and tell ourselves, "Self, there is no way this is going to work because they..." How do you know that it's not going to work? Are you afraid to take a chance because the person before you is a completely different idea of what you had in mind? My suggestion is to take chances in life. We only live once and while our pasts may not have been pleasant, learn from those areas, use them to your advantage, and try something different for a change. The result could lead to your everlasting happiness.